The countdown is about to begin. Out with the old, in with the new. One year ends, another begins. Do you use this time to reflect at all – to look back at all that has happened in your life during this year? Do you think about what you accomplished – and what you did not? Do you think about how to make 2009 even better?
I don’t make New Year’s Resolutions, my girlfriend informed me. I think she is crazy not to – and told her so! When is there a better time than NOW – as a year winds down? It feels so natural. Sure you can make resolutions any time, but the calendar gives us a start (January 1st) and possibly a finish (December 31st -- if you set yearly goals).
I don’t set them so I don’t break them, another friend told me (rather tongue in cheek – I HOPE). But that is ridiculous. You’re not going to set goals for yourself because you don’t think you can achieve them?? Hello ostrich, how deep is the sand over there?! Maybe you need to take a look at the type of goals you are setting for yourself. Or gain a little confidence in what you can do if you put your mind to it. Or both.
I love this time of year. I love taking a moment to look back (because aren’t we all usually so busy moving forward?) Just for a moment I like to think about the highlights (and lowlights) of the year. Of all I actually DID accomplish - and that which I had hoped to and did not. It is a private moment to be REALLY (really) honest with yourself. We all should do it. At least once a year.
I don’t dwell on the reflection too long. It is important to take stock of things. Yet I am eager to move forward, to plan out what I want to have happen in this coming new year. In many ways it feels like a fresh start, and I embrace that. Our past does not need to define us!
Best selling author Debbie Ford asks: What will it take for this to be the best year of your life? Powerful question, isn’t it? But God willing, you are going to be here on Earth for this next year – do you want it to be a humdrum year? Or do you want it to be something special? Do you want to just “make it through” or “survive” another year or do you want to live with zeal and gusto?
This Zen Mama Wannabe wants to look back a year from now and say, “Wow – what a fabulous year I just had! Look what I accomplished! Look how I worked and made my dreams come true! I learned so much and grew and contributed – it was truly a stellar year for me!” Did I say that THIS past year (in all my looking back)? No. But…I made some progress. So, onward and upward, I always say.
I am excited about 2009 and all the possibilities that are out there – for me – and for you! What WOULD having the best year of your life look like for you? What would you need to make happen? Then break it down into smaller pieces – what would you need to accomplish monthly in order to achieve what you want? Focus in even smaller – what about what you’d need to do weekly? Daily?
You’re probably not going to get handed your perfect year on a silver (or gold) platter. You are gonna have to work for it. But you truly deserve the very best (as do I – we ALL do). And it CAN happen. And it WILL happen for SOME people. They will figure out what they want, and what they need to do, and then they will work hard to make it happen.
So why can’t that be you? Why can’t it be me? Why can’t we have the best year of our lives? What’s stopping us – besides our own limitations? If a black man who describes himself as having “big ears and a funny name” can become President of the United States, don’t you think just about anything is possible?